I know it may seem like there has been a big focus on goals – for a blog about gratitude and joy, goals are the only thing I’ve actually written about so far. While goals are really not my focus, one of the most essential ways to be a happier person is to actually do what you want to do.
How to Set Goals
Think about the changes you would see if you could simply wave a magic wand and wake up tomorrow with everything you’ve wanted. What would your life look and feel like? What would be different? What would be the same?
In solution-focused therapy, this is called the miracle question. If a miracle occurred, how would you know? The idea is that once you know what would the change would be, you can figure out how to make it happen. Obviously, it’s not that simple when used in therapy, and there are other techniques solution-focused therapy entails, but I think this such a helpful idea to figure out how to improve your life.
What would your miracle be? What would increase joy in your life?
How can you work towards making that happen?
Once you’ve figured that out, think about the steps you can take to achieve your goal. This where goal setting and accomplishment overlaps with happiness. Anything you want to do in life requires you to take action and work to achieve it. While we’d all love for the magic wand to exist, the reality is that we need to take responsibility and figure out how to create more moments of joy in our lives.
For me, my goals are things that I believe will make me happier, in all different ways. Gratitude journaling is straightforward – the action itself creates joy by helping me to focus on the positive in my life and cultivate an attitude of thanks. Blogging or running, on the other hand, may not always bring happiness in the moment, but something hard or scary has its own reward.
Next up, I’ll talk about the tricks I use to achieve my goals and what has and has not worked for me. Let’s take action!